• Life Picturesque,  Thoughts for Life

    He's not that Into You

    He’s just not that into you if he’s a selfish jerk, a bully or a really big freak. If you really love someone you want to do things that make them happy.

    ~taken from a book called He’s not that Into You by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
    I’m really not a book person but when there’s a good book I take a good read (mostly books about psychology, love, life).
    He was perfect. He has ways to make me feel good. I knew he was the one. *Silence* At least that’s what I thought. We have a different way of living here in my country. I think that most western people, before they got married, they lived with their partners for a few years then they decided to get married. Here like most Asians do, we cannot live like that. It is a very different life if you compare dating phase and marriage phase.
    My family is quite different from the others (perhaps). Sometimes my parents allow my bf to stay a night or two at the house (during weekends). There I can know how they actually acts around the house. For example if we had finished eating, will he help us to clean the plates? I mean I know it is my house but he is my boyfriend, at least be considerate. It is really a good thing to know if he just automatically helps without me saying anything. This act would also make my parents thinks he is good. This act will make me think that I can depend on him.
    Back to this topic : He was perfect. He has ways to make me feel good. I knew he was the one. *Silence* At least that’s what I thoughtI dated this guy once. He is really good at making people believed in him. It was a really short dating phase when I thought that he is the one. We get serious. He does makes me happy at first but then after awhile he stopped doing effort for the relationship. Long story short it leads me to depression. So honestly, though sometimes I see that short dating phase turns out good in marriage, it doesn’t work for all people.

    If you really love someone you want to do things that make them happy.

    I believe in this quote because if I love someone I always do things to make them happy…but it is really disappointing if he doesn’t…what is the point of relationship if it doesn’t makes us happy?
     

  • Life Picturesque

    It's a Small Matter

    It’s just a small matter but it occurs often.
    Little by little it breaks me apart.
    That often turns it to a big matter.
    It makes me down;
    It made a lot of pain.
    People would just told me to forget it.
    I couldn’t.
    I had enough.
    I want to be happy.
    Free.
    Far away from that matter.
     
     

  • Life Picturesque,  Thoughts for Life

    Love is~

    Love is Blind.
    You cannot think rationally when you are in love.
    You don’t care the consequences.
    You know you make the wrong choices yet you still go on.
     
    Love was blind.
    You knew you shouldn’t take the decision but you took it.
    You now know the consequences.
    You regret the choices you have made.
     

    The problem is—

    Love is like a drug.
    It’s an addiction that you cannot stop until you gain your consciousness and found out if he is the one or not.
    Love makes you foolish.
    You want to be loved in your own way whilst not thinking of your partner’s desire.
     
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    …but what is Love?

    1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International Version (NIV)

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
    Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
    The description of love in the bible is the closest meaning for me; but it is not an easy thing to do, there is always more to it…
    ~to be continued