• Life Picturesque,  Thoughts for Life

    He's not that Into You

    He’s just not that into you if he’s a selfish jerk, a bully or a really big freak. If you really love someone you want to do things that make them happy.

    ~taken from a book called He’s not that Into You by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
    I’m really not a book person but when there’s a good book I take a good read (mostly books about psychology, love, life).
    He was perfect. He has ways to make me feel good. I knew he was the one. *Silence* At least that’s what I thought. We have a different way of living here in my country. I think that most western people, before they got married, they lived with their partners for a few years then they decided to get married. Here like most Asians do, we cannot live like that. It is a very different life if you compare dating phase and marriage phase.
    My family is quite different from the others (perhaps). Sometimes my parents allow my bf to stay a night or two at the house (during weekends). There I can know how they actually acts around the house. For example if we had finished eating, will he help us to clean the plates? I mean I know it is my house but he is my boyfriend, at least be considerate. It is really a good thing to know if he just automatically helps without me saying anything. This act would also make my parents thinks he is good. This act will make me think that I can depend on him.
    Back to this topic : He was perfect. He has ways to make me feel good. I knew he was the one. *Silence* At least that’s what I thoughtI dated this guy once. He is really good at making people believed in him. It was a really short dating phase when I thought that he is the one. We get serious. He does makes me happy at first but then after awhile he stopped doing effort for the relationship. Long story short it leads me to depression. So honestly, though sometimes I see that short dating phase turns out good in marriage, it doesn’t work for all people.

    If you really love someone you want to do things that make them happy.

    I believe in this quote because if I love someone I always do things to make them happy…but it is really disappointing if he doesn’t…what is the point of relationship if it doesn’t makes us happy?
     

  • Life Picturesque,  Thoughts for Life

    Relatives & New Faces; Getting to Know Them

    I went to Surabaya for 3 days. I can’t really get the time to write blogs at that time. Woke up quite late for 2 days because we went home 2-3 a.m. Met some unknown relatives here that I never met (mom’s cousins and children). Pasar Atom is like ITC Mangga Dua in Jakarta but much more smaller. I bought a bag, kentang bawang snack (fav snack all time) and I bought coffees 🙂 Love love it 💕
    The first and second day we met my uncle (aunt’s and mom’s cousin). He is really friendly and fun. I actually got to know a daughter of his but unfortunately she was in Jakarta when we went to Surabaya.
    At night we went to watch Annabelle with a relative that is 6 years younger than me. The film was scary. I love horror movies but I’m scared of the jump scare. Anyway. My relative is a nice girl. We have a chance to actually get to know each other. Anyway after the film we went to McDonald’s and spent another 1 to 2 hours together. I was already tired since I’m used to stay at home.
    Next day we went to Pasar Atom. I don’t really like that kind of places. Gets me anxious and tired fast. I don’t like the crowd but I like to buy the things XD. Oh and I was scared of taking pictures here because me and my cousin just witnessed a robbery just outside Pasar Atom (across from where we were standing). Well I did not really see the robber took something from the guy but it just happened right before we crossed the road to Pasar Atom.
    At night we went with the same relative again with her boyfriend going for a Karaoke. Went to McDonald’s again. Very tired I slept until 10 a.m. I think it’s past my time like going home late. Haha. Maybe when I was still 22 I’m still excited to go.
    Anyway not really much anything we did. Just met a few relatives and went back to Semarang. 
    My intention going was just to have a little refreshment and go outside my house once in awhile, also to talk to my aunt and grandma about my problems. They seemed to understand more than my family. I wish I went here for culinary but no we did not. Even in Surabaya we only went for shopping and meet relatives.
    I am happy that I meet some of my relatives in Surabaya so that I could get to know them. My mom is never a sociable person. She doesn’t like to be around family very much. I don’t know why…maybe she ever had a traumatic event before. I don’t know…but my aunt is different she is very sociable and manage to get connected to the family (her cousins and so on). Me, I love to connect with my relatives and friends. I never hated to meet them, it’s just that now because I had this problem, it’s really hard for me to meet people…but I’m still trying 🙂